Your style in anything can be really hard to pin down. Your style in interiors, beauty, fashion… But usually there are certain things or patterns or shapes and forms that each person is particularly attracted to, even if it changes over time.
At the beginning of the year I wrote about how I was putting more effort into my style. But nailing down your style can be tricky. We all know that feeling of walking into Primark, spending a 100€ on clothes, coming home all excited, maybe even showing on your IG stories or IGTV what you’ve bought only to be stuck in a rut the week after with nothing to wear because you don’t actually like those clothes anymore, or you don’t really have anything to wear them with.
To avoid these mishaps, it is good to know – or have a faint idea – of your own unique style.
But style is a huge word, and so personal to everyone, how would you even begin to define what it is? Here are my tips!
Ask yourself some polar opposite questions
There are many polar opposites in fashion, and you might be on either side of the spectrum or somewhere in between, but it’s good to know that to start to define your style. Ask yourself the following questions;
- Do you prefer black and white clothing or are you more a colourful gal or guy?
- Is plain more your thing or do you like funky patterns?
- What is plain to you; stripes and polka dots or entirely plain with just a colour?
- Do you wear dresses and skirts or trousers and jeans more in your free time?
You can keep going and ask yourself as many questions as you want!
Which season do you prefer
Which season do you find easiest to dress for? Finding out if you prefer shorts and shirts or jumpers and jeans easiest (and most fun!) to dress will teach you if your style is more lightweight or if you like layering.
Plus then you know which seasons you might have to make a little bit more effort in the morning to still look nice and like yourself!
Consider that what you wear every day now, doesn’t have to be your style but decide why not if it isn’t
A year ago or so I was mainly wearing jeans with a t-shirt and a jacket on top in the winter, and the same but in short version minus the jacket in the summer. Very simple, but also very boring and I started to hate what I was wearing and totally not feeling like myself anymore.
I thought hard and long about why I wasn’t feeling like myself and it was because I was technically always wearing the same thing, with little to no variation. I very much hate doing the same thing all the time in everything, I get bored after a while and I always want something else.
Same goes with clothes, wearing jeans and a t-shirt all the time was not giving me enough variation so I knew I had to get some more things to wear.
I hopped onto ASOS and bought some type of clothes I didn’t have anything of and now I feel like I have a wardrobe full of clothes that make me feel comfortable and like I can take on the day!
Whatever you might dress yourself in every morning might not be what you feel truly comfortable in. But ask yourself why it’s not and then you know what not to do. At the same time, you might feel like a total boss lady/man in what you’re wearing every day and it’s important to also identify that.
What others are wearing or what’s in trend is not always your style either
It took me a very long time to realise that I simply don’t feel comfortable wearing any type of skirt or dress. I live in Holland where we ride a bike to get anywhere on a daily basis, plus we are used to a little bit of wind so wearing a skirt means probably flashing someone every time you wear one and I just don’t feel comfortable with that. Plus, it might not help that I sit like a * in brackets * “man” (although gender stereotyping is not really my thing I hope you get what I mean) and a skirt simply doesn’t allow me to do that
Still, that doesn’t mean that I haven’t looked amorously at the last Topshop trend or an inexpensive Primark find and thought I definitely needed that. But mostly I wanted it because it was the current trend or I knew it looked good on other people.
Think about if you’ll feel comfortable in what you want to buy. Obviously I always encourage people to get out of their comfort zone but if you’re going to be self-conscious about flashing someone the whole time you’re outside then it’s probably not worth it.
Trial and error
I also definitely didn’t come to the previous conclusion without first buying about a dozen dresses and then realising they aren’t for me (seriously, if anyone lives in or near Utrecht, Holland, come have a rummage and take any skirt or dress with you).
Trial and error is probably the most effective way of finding out your style. Although these previous tips definitely help in saving some money during that trial and error process!
Try to clear out your wardrobe every few months to get rid of anything that you’re not going to wear anymore, and during that time truly reflect on why you’re getting rid of it – for example it might be because it has a pattern on it you don’t like or a colour you never wear – then you know that’s not part of your style so you can try to avoid buying something similar in the future.
What are your tips for finding your style?
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